Song of Solomon 1:1 – 8:14 (The Message)
Vera Schoolcraft Women’s Ministry Team
Specifically 2:16–My lover is mine and I am his.
There are some who say that the Song of Solomon is a portrayal of God’s love for us and His desire for a very deep intimate relationship. However, there is a dual message to us as Christians, which is both physical (marriage) and spiritual.
Jesus talks about the Bridegroom (Him) and the Bride (us, the church). The Song of Solomon parallels marriage and God’s relationship to us. We totally get the Biblical comparison of Jesus as the Bridegroom and us as the Bride. God tries really hard to make sure we understand fully His desire for us in the Song of Solomon: the importance of our earthly marriage and also our relationship with Him.
Marriage and intimacy is God-ordained, God-sanctioned, God-holy and wholly for one man and one woman. He knows our deepest need to be loved and accepted, both physically, emotionally and spiritually. Gen. 1:28 says “They became one flesh.” We see the extent that we humans go to, to have this kind of marriage and intimacy in our lives, in our community–including the Christian community–and in the world. Even if it means sinning to achieve that inner need. A second God-given order is to have children. We also see the extent to which those who desire children will go to accomplish this. Hmmm, I think God knew how important the family unit is to us as well, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
What impact would believers have, if we lived the Song of Solomon with our spouses? With our Lord? (Just make sure you don’t say to your wife “Your hair is like a flock of goats” or “Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon.” On the other hand, the husband would love his wife to say to him “… my lover is like … a young stag.”) The love that Solomon and the Shulammite woman had, during the courting and marriage is not only for the honeymoon season but the duration of the marriage, until death do us part. When our kids were teenagers, they would say “yuck” when Garry and I would give each other a kiss. But their tone of voice indicated more of a tease than disgust. This action, unconsciously, made them feel secure – mom and dad’s action indicated that divorce was not on the horizon.
Can we say to our spouse and our Lord: Solomon 2: 16 “My lover is mine and I am his.” If so, we can have an effect on our spouse, family, community and our country.